We MUST STOP interacting with their chaos and lies, STOP allowing their manipulation and gaslighting, STOP interacting with them altogether and most importantly STOP believing in them! From there we must work on ourselves to regain our footing, regain our worth, and be able to trust once again. Knowledge and education are our power that… Continue reading We MUST STOP interacting with their chaos and lies, STOP allowing their manipulation and gaslighting, STOP interacting with them altogether and most importantly STOP believing in them! From there we must work on ourselves to regain our footing, regain our worth, and be able to trust once again. Knowledge and education are our power that moves us forward with clarity and truth.
A few months ago, I was talking to my daughter about some relationship challenges I was having. I’d decided I no longer need to be in relationship with certain people. “I think it’s just COVID, Mama,” she said. “The pandemic taught me that I don’t have to be running around doing all these things for… Continue reading Monday Notes: Low-Maintenance vs High-Maintenance Relationships
What I say here may not apply to you, but it is what has helped me heal and feel better in a romantic relationship that didn't work. I hope something helps you. The first thing I had to do was be brutally honest with myself about why the relationship was not working and if it… Continue reading Honesty and Acceptance is What Will Heal the Hurt in a Broken Relationship
In your relationship, do you feel confused, exhausted, anxious, unbalanced, used, drained, unstable and stressed sometimes or most of the time? Do you overthink or do things you don't want all to help the relationship work? Does your partner show love, consideration and affection sometimes, but most of the time their actions show they are… Continue reading Don’t Lose Yourself in a Toxic Relationship
I found an affirmation app for my phone (you can too by searching in Google Play). The one I found is called 'My Affirmations'. This app comes with affirmations and lets you write in your own. It also lets you delete or edit any of the pre-programmed ones so you can fine tune your affirmations.… Continue reading Use Affirmations To Help You Move Forward After a Break-Up
Here I share a fun experience I had yesterday and the effect it had on me as an opening to reader shares on this subject of having fun. I hope you will join so we can create a resource for anyone looking to improve their life. My Share: I made time for fun this weekend.… Continue reading Please Share What You Do For Fun and The Effect Fun Has On Your Life.
In healthy, loving relationships there is mutual care, support, consideration and love. This seems obvious, but sometimes people were raised in dysfunction and have no clue what a healthy relationship is. For most of my life, I've been in this club and only beginning to painfully figure it all out within the past couple of… Continue reading Your Well Being ALWAYS Comes First
Two days ago I got a message from a guy I used to date wanting to 'cuddle'. Yesterday I got a message from my ex-boyfriend. I'm not entertaining either one because both men have toxic qualities and are in the past for a reason. I'm trying to heal my childhood issues that led me to… Continue reading Covid19 Brought The Energy Vampires Out. I Deserve Better.
I've been writing a lot about focus and that's because the past couple of years I've had major life lessons that showed me very directly that if I continued living the way that I was, I'd continue to spiral down in anxiety and depression. I've read about energy healing work in the past but I… Continue reading Using Our Energy Wisely
Your gut says 'trouble, don't date him' Your mind says 'but he seemed so nice and he's so good looking' You date him He wows you over with his words He is everything you always wanted He paid attention to everything you said And noticed qualities no one has ever noticed He's attentive and pursuing… Continue reading Dating: Listening To Your Gut
We gave up parts of our life for them, time and again All to find out it was only their needs that mattered They'd take as much as we'd give, even asking for more And it wasn't appreciated They would not help us in our time of need It was others that helped us Those… Continue reading It’s Okay To Walk Away From Selfish Abusive People
I've never subscribed to the best friend thing. Labeling one friend as my 'bestie'. The reason why is because I love all my friends for different reasons and would not want any of them to feel less than another friend, or hurt. It can be hurtful. Maybe not intentionally. But if I were to say… Continue reading I’ve Never Subscribed to the Best Friend Thing
When people are not responsible for their own lives and happiness it can hurt those that love them by putting a burden on them - a burden that is not theirs. We cannot give others happiness, security, stability, health, etc. - they have to find it in themselves. When we try to give them these… Continue reading Letting People Be Responsible for Their Own Lives
I've read numerous dating posts about being proactive in finding your next partner. Get out there and date - it's all about the numbers! This is the main advice I hear or read. I followed this for a number of years and I found that it kept me focused on that only and the rest… Continue reading Live a Fulfilling Life To Attract Your Next Partner
He was so good to me when we were together. But eventually, he'd ghost me and I'd break up with him. During the break-up I was confused how he could seem like he loved me so much then turn around and ghost me a few days later. Eventually he'd come back and we'd do it… Continue reading Alcohol Is The Alcoholic’s First Love
My daughter and I spend most every Sunday together. A lot of the time we just hang out at home, talk, laugh and eat. Sometimes we go thrifting, and sometimes we go explore. A few Sundays ago she wanted to go take pictures of the flowers at Pt. Defiance Park - I was all for… Continue reading Beautiful Rainy Day At Pt. Defiance Park
My daughter and I took a trip to the ocean last weekend. We both LOVE road trips and exploring. We live in Washington and our nearest ocean beaches are 90 miles away. We have a choice of Westport or Ocean Shores. We both prefer Westport because there's less crowds, a lighthouse, quaint little shops, and… Continue reading Ocean Road Trip! Westport, WA
I've been pretty much single for 12 years since my divorce. I've had four very short-term boyfriends during this time but they didn't last long enough to even feel like a real relationship and I never lived with any of them. I'd say 9 of the 12 years was spent pining for a relationship or… Continue reading Fulfilled and Single, FINALLY
I invite you to write about this subject on your site, then share the link to that writing in the comments below on this page. This will help bring traffic to your site and a nice collection of thoughts and ideas on the subject. If you do share the link in the comments below, I… Continue reading Writing Prompt: When You Love Yourself First, Everything Else Falls Into Place
Before we had social media, we focused more on ourselves and our own lives creating a great life.
Some of us grew up with examples of staying in toxic situations. Some of us were told we would be lonely if we didn't forgive and keep people in our life, even though they were toxic. Some of us thought toxicity was normal because that is how we were raised and what we experienced. The… Continue reading Walk Away From Toxic Situations To Help Humanity
We all have a busy life and we all only have a certain amount of time to keep our lives in order. Sometimes a fun spur of the moment invitation will come up when we planned to clean the house or get the laundry done and we will be tempted to say no because it… Continue reading Be Spontaneous
We hear and read about how we should realize our worth all the time. We think we get it, and we do until someone charms us. The attention feels good, especially if we haven't had that kind of attention in a while. We can find out the person is broken in some way - maybe… Continue reading Single Women, Please Realize Your Worth
Let's be grateful for having time to pursue our interests and the ability to do whatever we want to do without having to think about another person. We get to be selfish. This is a season in our life and it won't last forever (if we don't want it to) so we better enjoy it… Continue reading For Singles Struggling With Being Alone.
I've recently had something blow up in my face that at first felt traumatic. But within the next couple of days, it made me see why I've had toxic relationships in my life and therefore will help me to stop the cycle. Without going into too much detail, the thing that happened was that my… Continue reading Self Love Breaks The Cycle Of Abuse
When we think of beauty, we probably think of some movie star that has a 'perfect' body and looks drop-dead gorgeous. Each one of us probably has a movie star we wish we could look like. This outward beauty can be part of the equation, but it doesn't have to be. You do not have… Continue reading Beauty Is About Character, Not Outward Appearance
Our inspirations and actions come from our mental energy. If your life is in chaos and not going in the direction you want it to, consider what you are thinking about and doing most of the time. Are you constantly upset about something and trying to fix it? Are you daydreaming of how life will… Continue reading To Create a Fulfilling Life, Be Aware of Where Your Focus Is.
When I am completely focusing on my passions, I feel completely fulfilled. Usually this state takes no effort. For me it usually happens in the morning and lasts a few hours, then when there are things that need doing, like work, errands or chores, I am taken out of that wonderful flow. If I do… Continue reading Experience Joy by Being in the Now
I met someone about a year ago. Felt we had a great spiritual connection from the first date on. He was very attentive and wore his heart on his sleeve. We had good times. Felt like a hole in my heart had been filled. But I overlooked red and yellow flags because of the connection… Continue reading Love Yourself First
When I think of the Universe, I think of sunflowers. I think of yellow- yellow bursts of happiness expanding to the heights of this beautiful canvas in which we all have the wonderful gift of enjoying. When I think of the universe-- I think of equality and freedom. The fact that each individual has their… Continue reading Sunflower Vibes
There are certain people in life who make an impact on us, without realizing in that time frame. No matter how short of a time, or how long, they were in our life. Years later, we are going about our day and an experience comes up where we find ourselves thinking,"Wow, this person told me… Continue reading Mr. Carrier- my favorite teacher
It is so important to be kind to others. Being kind can be acted out in all different types of ways. Maybe, your way of being kind is complimenting people. Another could be listening or giving advice. It could also be talking to a person that is often bullied or unliked by others. It's making… Continue reading Kindness is Badass!
Do you have insecurities about your weight or your body? Have you been picked on because of your weight? Well, this post is for you. I have grown up being picked on about my weight as I have always been a bigger woman. I do have insecurities about my body to a degree, but for… Continue reading What is Your Version of Sexy?
Anxiety can steal your joy. It comes up unexpectedly throughout the day and you have absolutely no control over it. You're forced to be stuck with paralyzing thoughts that can effect your personal relationships and even your work. It seems there is no way out of the entrapment that's going on in your mind. You… Continue reading 4 Steps to Overcoming Anxiety
What is speaking your truth? It is speaking how you truly feel. It's not always necessary, but sometimes it is. In some situations, it can be better to leave things unsaid. We may disagree about something somebody says or does but it's just a difference in opinion and speaking our truth may cause hard feelings… Continue reading How Speaking Your Truth When You Are Mistreated Can Help You
Sometimes there's situations in life we'd like to resolve, but it seems any action taken would just make things worse. The reason it makes things worse is because we are trying to control things and get the outcome we want. We really don't have control of any outcome...
I have energy today! For the past few months I have felt like something was zapping my energy on a daily basis. In hindsight, I now know what it was. I thought I was enjoying time with him. The reality is that I enjoyed feeling like I had a partner and not being by myself.… Continue reading Lifestyle Incompatibility – Don’t Settle
We need to think of ourselves as queens when we date. Would a queen settle for being an option? Nope. Would a queen compete? Nope. Why should we do it? If a man brags to you that he has options, let him be free to all his options. It would be rude, inconsiderate and disrespectful… Continue reading Don’t Settle for Being an Option Ladies