Dating and Relationships, Self Care, Self Improvement

We MUST STOP interacting with their chaos and lies, STOP allowing their manipulation and gaslighting, STOP interacting with them altogether and most importantly STOP believing in them! From there we must work on ourselves to regain our footing, regain our worth, and be able to trust once again. Knowledge and education are our power that moves us forward with clarity and truth.

We MUST STOP interacting with their chaos and lies, STOP allowing their manipulation and gaslighting, STOP interacting with them altogether and most importantly STOP believing in them! From there we must work on ourselves to regain our footing, regain our worth, and be able to trust once again. Knowledge and education are our power that […]

We MUST STOP interacting with their chaos and lies, STOP allowing their manipulation and gaslighting, STOP interacting with them altogether and most importantly STOP believing in them! From there we must work on ourselves to regain our footing, regain our worth, and be able to trust once again. Knowledge and education are our power that moves us forward with clarity and truth.

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16 thoughts on “We MUST STOP interacting with their chaos and lies, STOP allowing their manipulation and gaslighting, STOP interacting with them altogether and most importantly STOP believing in them! From there we must work on ourselves to regain our footing, regain our worth, and be able to trust once again. Knowledge and education are our power that moves us forward with clarity and truth.”

  1. Your have stated this so well! You are exactly right… we must stop interacting with Chaos! Such a great description. When we sit an listen to the talking heads all day long our minds turn into mush and the divide grows even wider!

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  2. Good advice Monica, and I like it, however, I can stop, you can stop, most of the people who read this can stop, but as for the ones who are actually causing the problem; just how do we go about getting them to stop if we are no longer interacting with them~? I can’t stop~!,,,,,, I must tell them about the harm they do~!

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    1. I hear you Sam. I repeatedly told my narc about the harm he did until I finally realized it was never going to do any good and it also always gave him the opportunity to argue me down or gaslight me. Or charm me and keep me sucked into the loop. Sometimes it would make me so angry that I would yell or say things that I was sorry for and I don’t like to act that way and eventually I saw that I was acting in a toxic way too. There came a time where I simply told him that it wasn’t working anymore, that way there was no argument about it. I just told him that I could not spend time with him anymore. No reason, no nothing because I had already told him everything multiple times over 3 plus years. There was no reason anymore to tell him the harm that he did because he never was even sorry or accounted for things that he did. I was not able to completely leave him for over 3 years because I was in such a state of confusion of how he could seem so wonderful at times but yet many other times acted in ways that severely harmed our relationship. But when I got to a point that I recognized he would never be accountable or try to change his ways because he felt entitled, I was done. It still wasn’t easy and I still to this day have to work on when my mind goes back to the good times. Those good times and the good he showed was fake, also he could use me for ego boosts and more. It’s sad that we can’t change them and that they will move on to someone else to hurt, but there is literally nothing we can do. They have to want to change and as far as I have learned and read, narcissists do not want to change.

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  3. Oh I have so heard similar stories such as yours, there is a type of person who knows how to enslave their “loved” ones. You may see where I have written about this…(many times) I was a very lucky man and had a loving marriage for 50 years, but I have known others who had the very same problem you talk about.

    Ha ha~! did you read the playful poetic banter between Judy and me today on more or less a playful poem on that subject~?

    https://mail.google.com/mail/u/0/#inbox/FMfcgzGkZtBZHfBlhlcwQTxhwlWMFLbc

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      1. Oh you have not known me very long, but you will see that I do not hesitate to speak my mind, as kindly as possible, and I do not like to be negative here, or even give advice, but I do tell you how I personally feel and live~! I traveled the world as a bachelor, but when I met my wife it was true love at first sight, and we had a beautiful life together. She died of cancer and now I live alone in the dream home we planned and built together, with a beautiful dog and two cats on an isolated place in the Texas Hill country.

        I find poetry a great way to banter in fun or seriousness without bothering others. I do not post for just “likes” but love this way of making friends and conversations with like minded people.

        In editing my post this morning, I happened on the attached post which tells more about my relationship with a beautiful person.. We decided from the first that we would never go to sleep without first talking about anything that was bothering us. Not ARGUE but rather discuss.. It was rare that we ever had an argument, we may disagree on the color of a car we would buy but mostly even that worked itself out. Even our home, children and meals were planned with the input of both of us. If planned that way from the start it actually becomes fun instead of a battle~!

        https://mcouvillion.wpcomstaging.com/2021/06/10/maybe-not-the-only-answer/

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      2. You remind me of my parents. Together 60 years and my mom passed last October to cancer. Dad is left behind and I go visit and help him every other day. He tells so many stories of love and adventure – some I know because I was there – some I didn’t know. It’s heartbreaking one can be left to themselves after being with someone 60 years. I am just glad they had an adventurous life together.

        I appreciate you sharing with me some of your journey. 🙂

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      3. Thanks~! We had a beautiful marriage, then downside is that when you love someone that much it makes the final years so difficult to take. You may find that I have written about it often in my blog. This is one of my favorites and more or less tells about what your dad may be thinking~!

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      4. Yes, as I was reading it I was thinking my Dad could have wrote it. It is hard to witness his heartbreak but it is also healing and making our relationship closer, not to mention getting to hear things about my mom. It’s like hearing a true love story which seems unheard of anymore.

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