Some of us grew up with examples of staying in toxic situations.
Some of us were told we would be lonely if we didn’t forgive and keep people in our life, even though they were toxic.
Some of us thought toxicity was normal because that is how we were raised and what we experienced.
The people that raised us didn’t know any better, it is what they learned too.
It’s time to change that.
Stop going from one toxic relationship to the next.
Just stop, be with yourself, heal and learn better ways to be in relationship.
Raise your standards and do not accept mistreatment. It is not normal like we were raised to think.
If we continue this cycle, we hand it down to our children, and they suffer. We don’t want that.
If many raise our standards, it helps the abusive people learn they cannot treat people this way and it will be more difficult to find someone that will put up with their abusive behavior.
Maybe then they will see what they are doing and change their ways.
But we don’t do it to change them, we do it to live a much better life. A life with people that love and care about us and wouldn’t think of hurting us intentionally.
We also do it to help humanity. To teach people to be kind and love.
When we do this in our own lives, we show and teach all the people in our circle to live with kindness, love and integrity, and who knows how far that can spread.
Maybe the world would be a much better place to live just by loving ourselves and not tolerating mistreatment.
Yes, there is a place for forgiveness. Sometimes it is just to move on with your life without bitterness but without that person. Sometimes it is to give someone another chance, if they show they’ve made effort to change their abusive ways.
For those of us that grew up in toxic situations, take time to heal and learn how to be in healthy relationships. Don’t entertain new relationships until you know you’re in a healthier place.
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