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Unconditional Joy

For most of my life, having a good day or a bad day depended on what was happening in my life.

When I weighed myself going up or down one pound was the deciding factor for how I felt that day. (I stopped weighing myself years ago).

When I’ve had a partner and things were going well, it was a good day. When things were not so well, it was a bad day.

When someone made a rude remark, it was a bad day and when someone made a kind remark it was a good day.

When everyone was well in my family, it was a good day.  When someone in my family was having a health problem, it was a bad day.

When my car broke down, it was a bad day.  When my car was running well, it was a good day.

It’s raining – bad day.  It’s sunny!  Good day!

The guy that I really cared for ended up treating me badly.  Bad few months.

Not enough money to buy decent groceries.  Bad week or two.

You get the picture.

I was letting conditions and circumstances determine how I felt.

I’d worry about things and predict the worst possible case scenario in every situation.

I’d regret things that had happened, or mistakes I made.

I’d get angry at people that didn’t behave ‘right’.

So much of this type of thinking and letting things determine how I felt lead me to asking myself why I am even here.  Life is nothing but a struggle.

I hated feeling like this but I felt it was out of my control.  These things are happening to me.

And yes, they happen.  To all of us.  Sometimes one thing after another making it seem like life is nothing but struggle.

I hated feeling like this and it seemed to get worse the older I got.

I began to look for a solution for how to beat depression.  I found my own ways to begin to beat it and I started to feel better.  I wrote about it here: Breaking Circumstantial Depression

But I wanted to feel even better.  I wanted to be thriving and I had lost sight of that through things that had happened in my life and my reactions and emotions to those.

One day I was browsing Youtube and saw an interview with Dr. Joe Dispenza.

The things he said made so much sense to me.

He said (in my words) we wake up thinking about our problems and go through the day thinking about them.  It becomes a habit.  Our entire body expects it because this is where we let our minds go every day.  We are always stressed, sad, angry or fearful and these emotions rule our life.  Being in this state day in and day out leads to dis-ease because our bodies are not meant to take all this negativity.

He got into the solution which involved being present and appreciation.  Most of the time when we are agitated about something, it is something that happened in the past – sometimes even years ago.  We think about that rather than notice the good right in front of us.  We take things for granted and don’t appreciate them.  I immediately realized that yes, that is what I’ve been doing for years, and it has lead to depression.  For some people it leads to serious physical health problems. The more we let this go on, the more prone we are to sickness and disease because our bodies are in defense mode all the time.

If we can be present and appreciate what’s in front of us, our bodies and minds calm down, relax and feel good.

There’s a lot more to what he says and if this interests you, I’d recommend looking him up on Youtube.  I have been listening to him every morning in an effort to train myself into being present and his other ideas.  If I don’t listen to him every morning, I will probably let it drop off and fall back into my old habit of waking up with my problems on my mind and going through every day miserable.

Since I have started doing what Joe Dispenza talks about, I have felt better than ever, even with problems going on.  Good things have been happening and I believe it’s from being in this better state of mind.  It’s law of attraction at work.  I’m now attracting good because I’m focused on good and living in the present moment.  I was attracting bad because I was focused on my problems and constantly feeling miserable about them.  I still have the same problems going on, but I’m now able to see solutions because I feel good, rather than feeling out of control and hopeless.  Solutions cannot come when we feel miserable.

I hope this helps someone as much as it has helped me.

 

 

34 thoughts on “Unconditional Joy”

      1. Don’t worry my dear bubble🌷it is normal thing.if we see with open minded that every day is velentine’s day.because saint Velentine had told all humans to love from every creatures of this universe😊🌷🌷🌷🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

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  1. Thank you very much for your post. You are so right about enjoying what is happening in our lives at the moment and not focusing on past bad events. I always try to remember to live in the now. I really like how you write.

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  2. We give our emotions way too much power in our lives. At the beginning of each day I give the Lord my mind, (Romans 12:2) asking Him to take away the unholy, untrue, unimportant, and unnecessarily negative (the depraved, deceiving, distracting, and dark) and fill my mind with the things listed in Philippians 4:8 – things that are true, noble, just, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, and praiseworthy. I pray it out loud, so I hear myself say it. 😉

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  3. Life is a mixture. Our problem is trying to control our circumstances. I prefer the feeling of contentment. In any circumstances. I am 81. I have dementia. I am content. I can do nothing about it. But I am in love with a wonderful man. Why does he love me? I have no idea. But. I am content.
    Xxx
    Great post!
    Naomi

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  4. Reblogged this on Don Charisma and commented:
    Long time follower of my blog Monica, of “Bubble Bath Self Empowerment” blog reached out to me, in her own words :

    “Thank-you for this opportunity Don! I’m Monica and I write some self-help, life lessons, post my art, a few road trips here and there, recipes, dating, beauty and food related things. Pretty much anything that I think might help people live a better life or is worth sharing. I’m addicted to the blog world and hope to make it back to this page often to visit other people’s blogs. I have a full-time job and hope to someday write full-time. The following post seems to be popular so that’s why I’m sharing it. I appreciate this!”

    So, I proudly present her eloquent writing, as a gift for you, I hope you like 🙂

    (Please comment and like on the original blogger’s blog)

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  5. Sorry took so long to get round to reblogging, you know how it goes 🙂

    Kinda reminds me of the stoics approach –

    https://doncharisma.org/2020/04/28/you-always-own-the-option-of-having-no-opinion-there-is-never-any-need-to-get-worked-up-or-to-trouble-your-soul-about-things-you-cant-control-these-things-are-not-asking-to-be-judged-by-you-leave/

    Or, as a friend once said to me – “Don’t worry about things that are beyond your control”

    But easy to say, harder to practice, and you seem to have cracked it !

    Hope you are well, and safe.

    Cheers

    Don

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