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The Gift of Reality Calibration

A very important message here about parenting. I’d like to add that it applies to not just our children but anyone we love and want to ‘rescue’. Thank-you Albert, for your well-written wisdom.

Dream The Written Word

The hardest part of parenting is to step back and allow your children to fail at something. It takes a fortitude that hurts. You want to just reach out and hug them and tell them what to do. All so they don’t feel pain. But, if your children are teenagers, or like my kids in general, telling them what to do is a sure fire way to get them to not do it.

Failing at something, or what I call a Reality Calibration, can be helpful. It can spur focus, determination, or simply more effort.

Reality Calibrations come all the time and aren’t failures per se. They’re reminders. You think you’ve done enough work on a school or work project only to find there’s far more work needed. Usually, at least for me personally, Reality Calibrations strike when I’ve made too many assumptions about something. I may have missed an…

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Advice, Home And Garden, Self Improvement, Uncategorized

The Importance Of To-Do Lists

I was reminded of the importance of to-do lists this weekend. I work full time and when the weekend comes around I feel really scattered because there seems to be so much to do.  The scatteredness is not a pleasant feeling - I'll think of a few things I need to do, then start doing… Continue reading The Importance Of To-Do Lists

Thrifty, Uncategorized

I Got An Entire Outfit for $32 At Goodwill

My daughter and I went thrifting last night at Goodwill.  I came home with an entire outfit and a pack of gum for a total of $32 (that includes tax).  The outfit included a pair of Ugg-style boots, a pair of Hue jeggings, a Paper + Tee plaid shirt and a below-the-tush Liz Claiborne warm/thicker… Continue reading I Got An Entire Outfit for $32 At Goodwill

Advice, Dating and Relationships, Self Improvement, Uncategorized

Using Our Energy Wisely

I've been writing a lot about focus and that's because the past couple of years I've had major life lessons that showed me very directly that if I continued living the way that I was, I'd continue to spiral down in anxiety and depression. I've read about energy healing work in the past but I… Continue reading Using Our Energy Wisely

Advice, Self Care, Self Improvement, Uncategorized

Visualizing What We Want Rather Than What We Don’t Want

Most of us are living life on auto-pilot. Going to work, coming home, eating, watching some TV, chores, sleeping and repeating. Just getting by.  Surviving. Much of the time our thoughts are on our problems.  Our debt, health issues, relationship issues, etc. This can cause anxiety and depression. What if we spent our time thinking… Continue reading Visualizing What We Want Rather Than What We Don’t Want

Advice, Law of Attraction, Self Care, Self Improvement, Uncategorized

Unconditional Joy

For most of my life, having a good day or a bad day depended on what was happening in my life. When I weighed myself going up or down one pound was the deciding factor for how I felt that day. (I stopped weighing myself years ago). When I've had a partner and things were… Continue reading Unconditional Joy

art, Uncategorized

’68 Charger Painting

I am critical of this in many ways, but thought I'd post it for entertainment's sake.  Obviously I'm not a realist artist.  I've self-taught myself over the years and go through phases where I can't paint enough.  I first learned to tole paint from instruction books in my 20's.  That evolved over the years to… Continue reading ’68 Charger Painting

art, Signs and Symbols, Uncategorized

Playful Pig Painting + Symbolism

I'm really loving choosing my subject and colors to paint from strips of paper in a cup.  Today's subject was Pig with the colors pink, purple and teal.  You'll also see some grey, white and black - I allow myself to use white and black along with the chosen colors, and if I want to… Continue reading Playful Pig Painting + Symbolism

Dating and Relationships, Uncategorized

Dating: Listening To Your Gut

Your gut says 'trouble, don't date him' Your mind says 'but he seemed so nice and he's so good looking' You date him He wows you over with his words He is everything you always wanted He paid attention to everything you said And noticed qualities no one has ever noticed He's attentive and pursuing… Continue reading Dating: Listening To Your Gut

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Colorful Houses Painting w/Notes

I've been painting a lot lately and enjoying it.  It's helping me get through some difficult times.  When I paint, all I think about is painting.  Is there anything you do that gets you through difficult times? Here is today's painting.  I've been admiring the work of Georges Rouault so I imitated his style. Sometimes… Continue reading Colorful Houses Painting w/Notes

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THE NARCISSIST SOCIOPATH …

This is so well written and to the point. Hoping it will help others as much as it helped me.

VESSELS of VISION

The narcissist sociopath chose you because you are brilliant, bright, compassionate and caring.

He chose you because of all the qualities he lacks and expected you would prop up his low self-esteem and fragile ego.

You defeated the monster with your beautiful heart and you became stronger in the process.

So he has to move on to a weaker woman. One that will look past his lies and tolerate his abuse.

Keep your integrity and heart intact. This evil man chose to walk away from you because of your strength and because you saw through his fake personality.

What an amazing testimonial to your potential and spirit. Focus on that and realize that you fell in love with an illusion.

There are far better men in the world who will love and cherish you.

They will not lie and play games with you and blame you for their bad behavior.

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Clematis Impressionism Painting

This is a new painting I completed today of clematis (I think Nelly Moser).  I took a photo of one at a friend's BBQ a few years ago and this is my impression of it. It is 5″ x 7″ and painted on stretched canvas with acrylics. I just listed it as an auction on… Continue reading Clematis Impressionism Painting

art, Uncategorized

Rose Bouquet Impressionism Painting

This is a new painting I completed today of a rose bouquet.  I took a picture of a rose bouquet my daughter bought me a few years ago and this is my impression of it. It is 5" x 7" and painted on stretched canvas with acrylics. I just listed it as an auction on… Continue reading Rose Bouquet Impressionism Painting

art, Uncategorized

Elephant Pastel Drawing

I never know if pastel art should be called a drawing or a painting.  Any thoughts? Pastels are fairly new to me and I'm still trying to get the hang of it.  I'm used to painting with acrylics. This is a new piece of oil pastel art I completed today of an elephant. It is… Continue reading Elephant Pastel Drawing

Homemade Convenience Food, Uncategorized

Personal Pizza Homemade Convenience Ideas

Pizza is one of my favorite foods.  I make it at least once a week. I've been single for a long time so if I make a regular size pizza I will will eat too much. The solution for this was to make a batch of pizza dough and freeze dough balls that will fit… Continue reading Personal Pizza Homemade Convenience Ideas

Food/Cooking, Uncategorized

Homemade Soft Butter Spread

I am a butter person.  As we all know, butter does not spread well.  I've searched for a soft butter spread at the grocery store for a long time, but they all contain water which makes my toast or popcorn soggy. I remember my grandma always had butter on the counter at room temperature and… Continue reading Homemade Soft Butter Spread

Advice, God, Law of Attraction, Self Care, Self Improvement, Uncategorized

Breaking Circumstantial Depression

What is circumstantial depression?  It's depression resulting from circumstances that have happened to you.  This post is about that kind of depression. We all have highs and lows in life. For a while our life can seem nice and easy - everything is going just right, then bam, something extremely difficult happens - we, or… Continue reading Breaking Circumstantial Depression

Self Care, Self Improvement, Uncategorized

To All Parents

Please value your child's individuality Please give your child love, acceptance, support and affection Please don't try to make your child into what you want him/her to be Please protect your child from physical and emotional harm from anyone, even family Please help your child feel safe Please support your child's emotions Please help your… Continue reading To All Parents

Advice, Dating and Relationships, Self Care, Self Improvement, Uncategorized

It’s Okay To Walk Away From Selfish Abusive People

We gave up parts of our life for them, time and again All to find out it was only their needs that mattered They'd take as much as we'd give, even asking for more And it wasn't appreciated They would not help us in our time of need It was others that helped us Those… Continue reading It’s Okay To Walk Away From Selfish Abusive People

Christmas, Food/Cooking, Uncategorized

Easy Does It Christmas Recipes

Easy Does It Christmas Recipes By Monica Resinger *Note: I used to publish a home and garden e-zine from approximately 1998 until 2007. During that time I was married and raising my children. My kids are now adults and I am divorced. This is one of the articles I published in the e-zine during that… Continue reading Easy Does It Christmas Recipes

Food/Cooking, Uncategorized

The Benefits of Crock-Pot Cooking w/Recipes (from 2001)

*Note: I used to publish a home and garden e-zine from approximately 1998 until 2007. During that time I was married and raising my children. My kids are now adults and I am divorced. This is one of the articles I published in the e-zine during that time. Just wanted to let you know in… Continue reading The Benefits of Crock-Pot Cooking w/Recipes (from 2001)

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Tropical Whimsical Lighthouse Art

Just sharing another art trading card I did back in the day.  I used acrylics and colored pencils. I love lighthouses, especially whimsical ones. Check out more of my art here I LOVE connecting with you!  Conversation starters for comments: Share your art from your blog What’s your favorite medium and why? What’s your favorite style… Continue reading Tropical Whimsical Lighthouse Art

Advice, Self Improvement, Uncategorized

Happiness Is…

Living in the now and experiencing/enjoying what's right in front of us. Not thinking about past regrets, hurts or heartbreak. Not thinking of future worries. Not expecting or relying on happiness to come from anything outside of us or our control - a person acting a way that we want, having a relationship, a few… Continue reading Happiness Is…

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Winter Whimsical Owl Art

This is another art trading card painting I did back in 2006 with acrylics and colored pencil. I love owls. My daughter got off work one night and there was a big light-colored one standing on a car two cars away looking at her. Her co-worker took a picture and she sent it to me… Continue reading Winter Whimsical Owl Art

Homemade Convenience Food, Thrifty, Uncategorized

Homemade Convenience Food: Bagel Pizzas

Pizza has always been one of my favorite foods and now I can bring it to work with me for lunch with no hassle. I simply toast bagel halves, spread on store-bought pizza sauce, add toppings and shredded cheese.  Toasting the bagels helps them to not get soggy from the pizza sauce. Once assembled, I… Continue reading Homemade Convenience Food: Bagel Pizzas

art, Uncategorized

Snowman Art

This is another art trading card I did in 2006 that I sold on eBay.  An art trading card is 2.5" x 3.5" and an inexpensive and fun way to collect art.  I painted this in acrylics and used colored pencils for some of the details. Check out more of my art here I LOVE connecting… Continue reading Snowman Art

Advice, Dating and Relationships, Self Improvement, Uncategorized

I’ve Never Subscribed to the Best Friend Thing

I've never subscribed to the best friend thing. Labeling one friend as my 'bestie'. The reason why is because I love all my friends for different reasons and would not want any of them to feel less than another friend, or hurt. It can be hurtful.  Maybe not intentionally. But if I were to say… Continue reading I’ve Never Subscribed to the Best Friend Thing

art, Uncategorized

Santa Christmas Art

Just sharing one of my earliest paintings. It's an ATC (artist trading card) painting I did back in 2006.  I sold it on eBay and don't remember what it sold for. I used acrylic paint and colored pencils. Artist trading cards are 2.5" x 3.5". They are a fun and inexpensive way to collect art.… Continue reading Santa Christmas Art

beauty, Uncategorized

Coconut Oil Hair Conditioning For Shine & Volume

I was using a hair straightener to style my hair for a long time which ended in my hair being damaged. I've since stopped using the straightener and once per week I put coconut oil on my hair and now it's beginning to get healthy and grow again. My hair seems to be thicker after… Continue reading Coconut Oil Hair Conditioning For Shine & Volume

art, Uncategorized

In Progress: Rooster Impressionism in Oil Pastel

I am a self-taught artist. Years ago before divorce happened I painted nearly every day. My preferences then were color and whimsy and I used acrylics and colored pencils. Then divorce happened and I haven't been able to paint as much due to working full time. It's been about 12 years since divorce & my… Continue reading In Progress: Rooster Impressionism in Oil Pastel

Advice, Dating and Relationships, Self Care, Self Improvement, Uncategorized

Letting People Be Responsible for Their Own Lives

When people are not responsible for their own lives and happiness it can hurt those that love them by putting a burden on them - a burden that is not theirs. We cannot give others happiness, security, stability, health, etc.  - they have to find it in themselves. When we try to give them these… Continue reading Letting People Be Responsible for Their Own Lives

Advice, Self Improvement, Uncategorized, Writing

Blogging Tip That May Help You Write More Posts

For me, I have a set time to be in my office on the computer.  During this time I may get some writing done and I may not. Once I'm out of my office, I'm done with writing because I'm away from my computer. It's rare that I go back into my office later that… Continue reading Blogging Tip That May Help You Write More Posts

Advice, Self Care, Self Improvement, Uncategorized

Scattered

Been using much of my energy on fillers. Doing things that steal my inspiration and waste time. I go to work, come home, eat and straighten the house, then watch Youtube. This past week I've been on vacation.  Actually a staycation. I let myself go to the casino and since I won a little money… Continue reading Scattered

Advice, Being Single And Happy, Dating and Relationships, Law of Attraction, Self Care, Self Improvement, Uncategorized

Live a Fulfilling Life To Attract Your Next Partner

I've read numerous dating posts about being proactive in finding your next partner. Get out there and date - it's all about the numbers! This is the main advice I hear or read. I followed this for a number of years and I found that it kept me focused on that only and the rest… Continue reading Live a Fulfilling Life To Attract Your Next Partner

Advice, Dating and Relationships, Self Care, Self Improvement

Alcohol Is The Alcoholic’s First Love

He was so good to me when we were together. But eventually, he'd ghost me and I'd break up with him. During the break-up I was confused how he could seem like he loved me so much then turn around and ghost me a few days later. Eventually he'd come back and we'd do it… Continue reading Alcohol Is The Alcoholic’s First Love

Food/Cooking, Homemade Convenience Food

Homemade Convenience Food Series #2: Banana Bread

I don't have a lot of time in the mornings before work and never feel like doing food prep so it's wonderful to be able to just grab and go. Since being single, I can't count the number of times I've made banana bread and ended up throwing some of it away because it got… Continue reading Homemade Convenience Food Series #2: Banana Bread

Being Single And Happy, Road Trips and Adventures, Self Care

Beautiful Rainy Day At Pt. Defiance Park

My daughter and I spend most every Sunday together.  A lot of the time we just hang out at home, talk, laugh and eat.  Sometimes we go thrifting, and sometimes we go explore. A few Sundays ago she wanted to go take pictures of the flowers at Pt. Defiance Park - I was all for… Continue reading Beautiful Rainy Day At Pt. Defiance Park

Being Single And Happy, Road Trips and Adventures, Self Care

Ocean Road Trip! Westport, WA

My daughter and I took a trip to the ocean last weekend.  We both LOVE road trips and exploring. We live in Washington and our nearest ocean beaches are 90 miles away.  We have a choice of Westport or Ocean Shores.  We both prefer Westport because there's less crowds, a lighthouse, quaint little shops, and… Continue reading Ocean Road Trip! Westport, WA

Food/Cooking, Homemade Convenience Food, Thrifty

Homemade Convenience Food Series #1: Sweet Tea

I save single serve bottles from when I purchase beverages from a store (like Gatorade, tea or soda). Then I make a large batch of sweet tea, let it cool, pour it into the saved and cleaned bottles and refrigerate.  Then I have the convenience of grabbing a bottle for work or when I get… Continue reading Homemade Convenience Food Series #1: Sweet Tea

Being Single And Happy, Dating and Relationships, Self Care, Self Improvement

Fulfilled and Single, FINALLY

I've been pretty much single for 12 years since my divorce.  I've had four very short-term boyfriends during this time but they didn't last long enough to even feel like a real relationship and I never lived with any of them. I'd say 9 of the 12 years was spent pining for a relationship or… Continue reading Fulfilled and Single, FINALLY

Being Single And Happy, Dating and Relationships, Self Care, Self Improvement

Writing Prompt: When You Love Yourself First, Everything Else Falls Into Place

I invite you to write about this subject on your site, then share the link to that writing in the comments below on this page. This will help bring traffic to your site and a nice collection of thoughts and ideas on the subject. If you do share the link in the comments below, I… Continue reading Writing Prompt: When You Love Yourself First, Everything Else Falls Into Place

Advice, Self Care, Self Improvement

On Being Present

She didn't even hear me. Ugh, that was a little embarrassing. Shake it off. What do I do? There's no one else to talk to. Guess I'll look at Pinterest and be on my phone too. She starts laughing, showing me a funny video clip. I say something about it and... she doesn't hear me...… Continue reading On Being Present

Advice, Being Single And Happy, Dating and Relationships, Self Improvement

Walk Away From Toxic Situations To Help Humanity

Some of us grew up with examples of staying in toxic situations. Some of us were told we would be lonely if we didn't forgive and keep people in our life, even though they were toxic. Some of us thought toxicity was normal because that is how we were raised and what we experienced. The… Continue reading Walk Away From Toxic Situations To Help Humanity

Advice, Being Single And Happy, Self Care, Self Improvement

Be Spontaneous

We all have a busy life and we all only have a certain amount of time to keep our lives in order. Sometimes a fun spur of the moment invitation will come up when we planned to clean the house or get the laundry done and we will be tempted to say no because it… Continue reading Be Spontaneous