In response to:
Life feels rumpled at times.
Trying to keep up with responsibilities, family, relationships, work, home upkeep and improvement, your health and looks, vehicle maintenance, finances. Groceries. The list goes on. Those are just the have-to’s.
Then there’s the want-to’s. Beautiful tidy home. A yard to enjoy life in. A garden to enjoy. Less rumpled hair (haha). Reliable vehicle. Enough money to go on road trips. Fun. Painting. Writing. Reading. Helping others. The list goes on.
So much to do, so little time. I wish I knew the answer to feeling less rumpled.
I do know that it helps to keep lists and get things out of our head. Lists also help us to remember what we have to do, rather than relying on our memory. For me, when things get overwhelming, I worry I’ll forget to do something and life will come crashing down, so lists help me to know that I won’t forget.
I also know that blocking out time for getting things done helps. It helps me see that there really may be enough time to do all that I need and want to do. When it’s all in my head, it feels like chaos. On my days off, I’ll make a time-block schedule that looks something like this:
8am til 11am: Reading/blogging
11am til 12pm: Shower
12pm til 1pm: Cleaning/laundry
1pm til 3pm: Garden
3pm til 4pm: Dinner
4pm til 5pm: Relax
5pm til 5:30pm: Organize
5:30pm til 7:30pm: Paint
Usually, my day goes different than I plan due to an unplanned visit, something taking longer than expected or I just don’t feel like doing something when the time comes, but it helps me to have it to refer back to when I’m trying to figure out what to do next. If I miss doing one, two or three things, it’s ok, at least I usually make progress on something.
On work days, after eating, resting, errands and tidying up the house, there’s not a whole lot of time to do anything else. If I can squeeze in a little something, I will but usually I give myself time to rest and not push myself.
Lastly, accepting that life is going to feel rumpled at times can help. Instead of struggling with it, flow with it. Let it be rumpled until you have enough time to sit down and make lists or whatever you have to do to smooth things out. Sometimes there isn’t even enough time to think about it. My week was like that because there was a lot I had to fit in. All I could do was focus on what needed to be done now, then when that was done, move on to the next thing and get that done. This morning it’s my day off and I have some time but still feeling the overwhelm because there’s so much I want to do. But I did find time to make a list and a schedule so am feeling better. I’ll get some things done today and feel better yet.