Let’s be grateful for having time to pursue our interests and the ability to do whatever we want to do without having to think about another person. We get to be selfish.
This is a season in our life and it won’t last forever (if we don’t want it to) so we better enjoy it while it’s here. Someday we might have a partner and we may miss all the time we had to ourselves.
This season is meant to make us strong in who we are so we can have healthy relationships in the future. Not only make us strong in who we are, but more interesting and attractive because we have a developed and interesting life when we use our time to pursue and/or enjoy our interests.
It teaches us to be responsible for our own happiness.
If we are waiting for a relationship to make us happy, when we get into a relationship, we may put too much pressure on the other person because we rely too heavily on them for our happiness, rather than being responsible for our own happiness.
Being single right now is preparing us for a healthy happy relationship in the future if we use this time wisely and develop ourselves, rather than wallowing that we are single.
Who knows? After living your single life like this, you may just decide you don’t want a relationship anymore and there is nothing wrong with that.
I’ve been up and down with this, but lately I’m loving my single life. There are times I get caught up in my feelings of being alone but those times are fewer and far between. I realized lately that Facebook contributed a lot to me feeling this way. Seeing my friends enjoying their significant other made me feel like I was missing out on something. Come to find out, that’s a thing – FOMO – Fear of missing out – but that’s another article. For the most part I stopped using Facebook about 6 months ago and it has helped me. I not only have a lot more time, but I’m not bombarded with ads, people’s fighting over government, horrific news stories, all the football posts and of course all the happy couples (which I am happy for, but when you want that and it doesn’t ever seem to come, it’s a definite downer). I feel much calmer and my energy has been cleared to focus on the things that matter to me. I’m not constantly in the energy of yearning for a relationship and I’m more in the energy of – what do I want to explore next? What can I do to improve my life? What can I do to treat myself well?
I hope this helps you realize that being single is not a bad thing and that you can have an amazing fun life, even when not in a relationship.
I’d love to hear your comments below.
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