It has been about 6 months since I’ve been on Facebook, besides a few messenger messages from friends. The only reason I stopped going on Facebook at the time was due to time constraints. I haven’t missed it and I had an aha moment one day about it.
The aha moment was about when I used to feel sad on the weekends because it felt like everyone was with their other half doing fun amazing things while I was all by myself. I couldn’t figure out why I felt this way when most of my life I’ve enjoyed my alone time.
Then one day I read about FOMO – Fear Of Missing Out. It is caused from being on social media and seeing many post the best parts of their life. You are left comparing your ‘bleak’ life to their ‘exciting’ life. I never really thought I was comparing, but in hindsight, I think I was.
I was giving 2-3 hours of my time to Facebook scrolling through seeing what my friends were up to, reading memes, being bombarded by ads… you know the drill. It was all distracting me from things I could be doing… something fun, reading, learning, writing, being productive, spending real time with family or friends, visiting places, decorating the house, cooking something good, making my own memories, LIVING A FULFILLING LIFE, rather than using my time to see other’s memories and be completely distracted.
By the time I got off Facebook, my mind was all over the place with the huge variety of all the posts that I was scrolling through. It was hard to think of anything I wanted to do and I didn’t have a lot of energy left to do the things that might cross my mind. It led to a lot of unproductive and unfulfilling days.
Before we had social media, we focused more on ourselves and our own lives creating a great life. Now we are thinking something like… “Shelly and her husband just got a boat and are having so much fun in it… I don’t have a boat, or a even a boyfriend :-(” If we didn’t expose ourselves to this, we’d have time to be making our own fun and dreaming up new goals such as buying a boat. We’d be very involved in our own lives, like we used to be.
After being off Facebook for 6 months, I don’t feel the sadness on the weekends anymore. I’m excited to be working at goals and doing fun things. My mind is completely focused on my own life and great things are happening because I’m putting energy into my life, rather than wasting it on social media.
I’m fortunate to be old enough to remember my life before social media came along. I had hobbies I was passionate about, I was planning road trips and taking them, I visited friends and family, I was always involved in improving my home, trying new recipes, growing gardens and using what I grew, taking dance classes. I don’t recall feeling like someone else’s life was better. I was just totally into my life and my family. I was fulfilled. Yes, I still had problems, we all do and will, but I was much more fulfilled. I feel like I’m getting back to that and love it.
I’m not going back to social media. 🙂
If you decide to quit social media, I wouldn’t expect immediate results. It will take time to adjust to a new routine and having more time to yourself. But the more time passes, you’ll adjust and create other things to do with your new spare time that will be more productive to your life bringing you happiness and fulfillment.